Musing on “Is My Own Hair Enough”?

Back in the day, the primary reason for having extensions of any kind, was to add length, to make your hair long or at least longer.  We have come a long way since then, at least I know I  have.  Nowadays, I find that for me, having extensions is never about length, it’s usually about volume, thickness, texture, achieving that va va voom, wow factor, just pumping up the volume on my presence.   ‘Pumped up’ hairstyling does attract a lot of attention and garners many a compliment from both friends and strangers alike.

But crazy ole’ me, I’m always going back and forth regarding what I want for my hair.  Some times I think I should just cut it all off and be done with it.  But we know, that’s not really gonna happen.  Why?  Because one of my issues regarding hair is the plain fact that I like change and going bald offers very little options for change except with wigs and I’m just not the wig wearing type.  Don’t get me wrong, wigs are great.  They are just not for me.

Lately this has been the dillio.  I will sit down and have a big hair style done at the salon, usually it’s a textured (kinky) weave that is lush and plush and I love it, rock it and feel extra special.  Then one day I’ll wake up and I’m feeling like I really want to feel my scalp, I want to feel my own hair, I want to shampoo my hair more often and just kind of play in it.  So I end up talking myself into taking the style out and for the first few days, it’s a relief to have that extra hair out of my head.  With the extra hair is out my head and I can feel my scalp, touch and play in my hair.  And then the next thing I know a big or special event is coming up and I start feeling like, I can’t go as just plain ole’ me, with just my hair.  I have to have something big, something bold, something extra, extra…

Recently, this happened to me again and I began to question my sanity.  I was wondering, ‘Am I crazy’???  What is with this back and forth?  When I have my own hair I want extra hair, when I have extra hair, I want my own hair.  So I will admit it, I am crazy, when it comes to hair.  I know my staff thinks I’m crazy.  A few of them said to me recently, ‘Don’t get your hair done, because you’re going to want to take it out in a few days’.  A few days?! Well I’m not that bad, but then again, if it’s not right for me, I will take it out the next day.  I know not everyone has that option when they’ve spent their hard earned money.  And I understand that.

The other day I looked at my calender and realized I’m have a few items on my calender that will put me in front of quite a few people I’ve never met before.  I want to make a good impression for my business.  I want my hair to be extra special so they can see possibilities for what they may be able to have done.  I texted one of my Stylists whose always booked up way in advance and asked if she would come in on her day off and hook me up.  Then I had a talk with myself.  Self I said, are you crazy???  You just took out a big style that you only had for a few days (it was too heavy for me).  Now you want to get a style you had about a year ago and when you had it, you couldn’t wait to take it out.  Why don’t you just deal with your own hair?

Self responded and said you’re right.  I don’t know why I’m bugging.  I some times think my own hair is just not enough, when I know that it is.  So I texted my Stylist back and said, ‘Never mind, I’m going to keep dealing with my own hair’.  When I saw her later that day she laughed and said, I had made my request and retracted it all before she even was awake for the day.  Yes, she thinks I’m crazy!

But honestly,  I’m dealing with my own hair and loving it.  I’m receiving compliments from the most unexpected folks and my own hair is really beautiful and it’s enough on its own, in spite of the fact that I have some new, hot, events coming up.  Not to mention, I’ve noticed that my Sweetie only touches my hair when it’s just my hair.  When there’s extensions in it, the only hands that touch it, are mine.  Perhaps they are not feeling it to touch something ‘fake’.

The other upside of wearing my own hair is that I have more of an opportunity to use my soon to be released line of Anu Essentials hair products. And I love the way they make my hair smell and feel.  Stay tuned for that one.

So yes, I’ve concluded my own hair is enough!  It is enough to be beautiful on its own without extensions, weaves, add on hair, whatever!  And the next time I’m feeling it’s not enough, I’ll go and actually groom it first, instead of waking up out the bed, looking in the mirror with ‘bed head’ and thinking, this is not enough, this won’t do.  Yes, yes, I do love my hair, it’s healthy, beautiful, lovely and it will do!  It is enough!  At least today it’s enough!

 

 

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